Final requests are YOUR final requests. Make them yourself, make them known

Dan and I have talked over the years of what we wanted when we passed from this earth. We had a good family friend pass away on Thanksgiving day and it got me to thinking when I saw people I loved trying to make some quick decisions for our friends final requests. Final requests should not be left for someone else to make for you. They are YOUR final requests . Make them known and pay for them if you can so that the people you love are not making quick expensive decisions. Decisions made during a emotional time of grieving. SOOOOO that said. I decided to get some pre funeral planning done for Dan and I. I went to City view cemetery on Tuesday. They have a mortuary also and I went to Virgil T Golden's. I got a bunch of info and came home and talked to Dan about what I had learned. We have decided to be cremated and put in a outdoor crypt together when the time comes. It was not weird. I kind of felt like a party planner looking at venues and deciding how much money you want to spend. I did tell both places I did not want to by a wedding dress to be buried in. ( meaning to say I was not going to spend a fortune for something no one will ever see. That was when I was looking at coffins. I found some that were about 550. cool old style wood ones. Dan had always wanted to be buried. Once we looked at it all the information, he liked the cremation venue better in the outdoor building in a crypt with a plaque stating that we were there. ( sounds a bit like Colonel mustard in the library with the candlestick) It is actually a good feeling to know that we have that all figured out and can just put it behind us and know that those decisions are all done. That neither of us or our kids will have to do that now. It is taken care of. Kind of freeing.